Episode 5: Speaking to Kids’ Belief Systems
Engaging, challenging, and empowering parents in raising well-rounded children through combining educational research to everyday life.
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on today’s episode…
Our word selections can impact our children beyond the present moment– they can be ingrained into what they believe about themselves forever.
Insights
Have you ever heard parents (or yourself!) say things like:
“Of course, you didn’t put your clothes away… why are you so lazy??”
“You’re such a liar! I can’t trust you to tell me the truth.”
“You’re such a messy person! Clean your room!”
Or kids saying these things about themselves:
“I’m terrible at math… I hate it.”
“I’m so ugly/fat/short/stupid, etc”
“I’m a scaredy cat”
All of these examples are touching their identities– who they believe they are.
Speak to their choices rather than their identity.
“You’re making poor choices” vs “You’re a bad girl/boy.”
Instead of adding labels, speak positive identities about who you want them to believe they are.
Be aware of how we deliver messages.
“Don’t run!” vs “Walk!”
There’s enough negativity in the world… let your home be a place where everyone gets refueled with positivity, and most importantly, TRUTH about who they are.
Speak to their choices rather than their identity.
