Episode 14: How to Create a “Safe Haven”
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Want to know what Josh and I will be discussing on our next date night?! Take a listen! Maybe the conversation won’t be romantic, but being the bestest parents we can be is a tremendous priority of ours. And it takes a lot of work!! In episode 14, I introduce 3 conversation starters to have with your spouse to make sure a home is a safe haven for everyone.
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This is a conversation starter with your spouse
Safety is a basic human need according to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs. In fact, it’s such a “basic” need that it’s only second to physiological needs (air, water, food, shelter, sleep, etc). In an article on simplypsychology.com, Dr. Mcleod (2023) listed “personal security, employment, health, property, and emotional security” as safety needs.
We’re focusing on the last one on that list– emotional security. You’ve heard me say every single week that your home is your child’s “safe haven.” In this episode, I want to give you 3 areas where you can create a safe haven for your child, so their safety needs are met, beyond just being given a shelter or food.
3 CONVERSATIONS TO HAVE WITH YOUR SPOUSE TO MAKE YOUR HOME IS A SAFE HAVEN
Tendencies and strengths
Ex: Who’s the fun parent? Who is the most disciplinary? Who’s the cuddler?Have an “open door policy”
Ex: Debrief daily; create catchy phrases; use special moments to your advantage… one-on-one, with your spouse, and as a family!Write down your values
Ex: My 3: 1) We are a team, 2) We talk about our needs, and 3) We are disciplined. These can be unique to you– how you love, serve, disciple, and teach your children in ways that make them feel safe because you are consistent.
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That last word– CONSISTENCY is such an important part of making your home their safe haven. Unwind, relax, watch your tendencies and strengths, have an open door policy, and be consistent in your values.
When kids are given the opportunity to digest new information with you, their #1 teacher, in their safe space, they begin welcoming new challenges, as their curiosity, competence, and confidence flourishes… making them lifelong learners.
