Episode 23: A Personal Story
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ON TODAY’S EPISODE…
Dr. Cagle shares about her personal experiences with miscarriages and infertility. Additionally, she talks about the emotional toll on everyone, including the kids during those seasons.
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Disclosure: use discretion when listening (aka, there may be things you don’t want your younger child hearing).
According to mayoclinic.org, “10 to 20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage” (https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pregnancy-loss-miscarriage/symptoms-causes/syc-20354298).
I am included in that statistic. In fact, I’ve experienced 3 miscarriages.
In my experience:
Women process the loss differently than men because of the physical changes that take place so quickly in women’s bodies
For a long time, I didn’t realize how it was impacting me emotionally
I didn’t share about the grief I was experiencing
Baby showers were hard, even though I truly wanted to celebrate with others
Being happy for others was hard, even though I truly wanted to be
Watching a few high school students get pregnant was really hard
I chose a worship song during each season. When I hear the songs now, I still remember the pain.
How it impacted Levi… that I only saw surfacing after Titus was born.
My advice:
Really pay attention to your emotions
Give yourself permission to feel them
Make sure you talk to your spouse about them
Have community and share about the hard days
If you have kids old enough to understand, check on them too
