Episode 8: Does your Child have this Trait?

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on today’s episode…

In a household of 3 sons, Dr. Cagle is constantly talking to her kids about this one thing…. A lot of the behavior issues, whether in the classroom or at home, are related to this same thing… and that is: self-control. Learn 3 ways to teach this trait in your home!

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Outline

A lot of the behavior issues, whether in the classroom or at home, are related to a lack of self-control on the child’s part… lack of discipline on the parents’ part, but, for the child, knowing how to control themselves. 

For them to develop good self-control, two things are needed: 1. Awareness: they need to be taught when a certain behavior is inappropriate and 2. Alternative: they need to be taught the alternative… or what is appropriate.   

3 WAYS TO TEACH SELF-CONTROL: Modify as needed for the age groups

1. Call them out in the act (to raise awareness).
   Ex: Not to “bust” them! But so they recognize in the moment that their behavior wasn’t ok. Emotions example

2. There’s a time and a place (alternative).
   Ex: speak positive words over them, so it fills their minds. Non-verbal cues… volume, eye rolling, physical touch

3. Role-play.
   Ex: give real life examples they encounter where self-control is needed. 

Outro

Self-control is a trait needed forever: from knowing the appropriate time of letting out a squeal, to when they face peer pressure in high school… from knowing when enough is enough with their girlfriend or boyfriend, to when they refrain from letting their boss have a piece of their mind. 

The sooner you teach them this trait by raising their awareness, helping with alternative behaviors, and role-play scenarios with them, the stronger their self-regulation will be!

When kids are given the opportunity to digest new information with you, their #1 teacher, in their safe space, they begin welcoming new challenges, as their curiosity, competence, and confidence flourishes… making them lifelong learners.